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Strap-on Sex

Strap-on sex can be a hoot for people of all genders and orientations! All you need is some purchasing tips, a little imagination, and a lot of lube! But first, the tips…

Many first-time strap-on buyers shuffle into the store with Hollywood images of an all-in-one “strap-on” in their heads, but we find that when you mix-and-match your preferred harness with your favorite dildo, not only do you increase your and your partner’s satisfaction, but you have so much more versatility! You can amass an arsenal of dildos and choose one according to your mood, partner or body part that you are playing with. To help find the right products for you, there is some basic info below. If, after reading this, you still need help choosing a harness and/or dildo, by all means, drop us a line or give us a call. 

Harnesses mostly come in two main styles–the one-strap (or thong) and the two-strap. Although it is less common, some people like the one-strap because the thong strap rubs directly on the genitals. However, many other people prefer the two-strap harness because it leaves the wearer’s genitals open and available for stimulation with hands, vibrators, butt plugs, and double dildos! In addition to these types, there are also thigh harnesses for couples of different sizes, those with disabilities, or anyone who wants to try something different. 

Harnesses are made of different materials, generally nylon, cotton or leather. Much of the choice of material and style boils down to aesthetics, price and personal preference. There is not much variation in the comfort of the materials, but some people prefer the feel and look of leather, while others prefer the affordability and easy clean-up of non-leather materials. The fasteners range from backpack straps to buckles, and each has its pros and cons. For example, buckles are sturdier but harder to adjust in the moment. Figuring out what works best for you is a combination of imagination and trial and error.

If you’re new to strap-on sex, we often suggest a harness with a removable ring so you can experiment with different dildo sizes. If it has a back plate that you have the option of removing, you can use the harness with or without the backplate. Some harnesses come with mini-vibrators, and we carry a couple of kits that include dildos for first-timers.

If you (or the person who will be wearing the harness) already has a penis, there are a few options. The Deuce Harness is specially designed for guys. It accommodates your goddess-given bits and allows you to use a dildo as well. We also find that folks can use something like the Haka or Commando harness successfully if it is worn just above the penis. 

For folks who are using their harness for packing, we offer the Pete Packing Trunks and Freestyle as well as three versions of the RodeoH Harness. 

 

Okay. So now you have your harness. How on earth do you choose a dildo? Well, you can narrow down your choices very easily by just using your intuition. You can tell a lot just by looking at them! Like Goldilocks, some will be too big, others too small, but inevitably you will find some that are just right. Then you can decide if you want a realistic-looking dildo or a more abstract-looking one. You can choose by color and by material. We like silicone because it is hypoallergenic, long-lasting, and easy to clean and sterilize. Cyberskin & skin-like materials are also a cool because, you guessed it… they feel just like skin! It is, however, a fragile material, so just be careful how you clean and store it and know that you cannot sterilize it. 

So… now what, right? Well, like we said before, strap-on sex is fun for all genders! Surprised? It’s true! You can bend over your boyfriend and stimulate his prostate anally with your strap-on; your male partner can strap on for a different experience or size or even for double penetration; your female partner can strap on a double dildo and be the penetrat-or and penetrat-ee at the same time! And we haven’t even gotten into using vibrators, butt plugs, and cockrings. Or giving the wearer a visual feast with a strap-on blowjob! The possibilities are endless, so use your imagination!

One final word–on lube. Real, scientifically viable studies have been done on lube use among sexually active couples, and these scientific studies have shown that couples that use lube tend to have more satisfying sex. What’s not to love? Slap a little water-based lube on your dildo and enjoy smooth sailing into your and your partner’s preferred orifices. Ahoy mateys!